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i'm from bihar. here's what people get wrong about my state.

Feb 28, 2026

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updated Feb 28, 2026

“where are you from?“

it’s the most normal question in the world. i’ve answered it a thousand times. at college, at work events, at friend-of-friend dinners, in uber rides, on dates. and every single time, there’s this half-second pause after i say it.

”bihar.”

the pause is tiny. most people don’t even realize they’re doing it. but i notice it every time. sometimes it’s followed by “oh, nice” in the exact tone you’d use if someone told you they collect stamps. sometimes it’s “oh, really? you don’t seem like…” and then they trail off because they realize they’re about to say something stupid. sometimes it’s the joke. the bihari joke. said casually, the way you’d joke about the weather.

i’ve been having this conversation my entire adult life. i’m tired of it. not angry, just tired. so let me just say everything i’ve been thinking for years, all in one place.


the stereotypes, one by one

let’s not dance around them. i know what people think when they hear “bihar.” let’s just put it all on the table.

”biharis are uneducated”

this is the big one. the default assumption. the look of mild surprise when you speak english fluently, as if the state doesn’t have schools.

here’s the reality: bihar produces more IAS officers than almost any state in india. one in every ten bureaucrats in north block or south block is from bihar. every 8th secretary to the government of india is bihari. nearly 25% of all IAS and IPS officers who qualified in the last decade are from bihar. patna alone has 80+ coaching institutes for UPSC and BPSC. the city runs on aspiration.

biharis aren’t uneducated. biharis are so obsessed with education that families sell land to fund their children’s coaching fees. the problem was never that biharis don’t value education. the problem is that for decades, the state didn’t have enough institutions to educate them locally. so they left. and when they left, they outperformed everyone else.

that’s not a stereotype. that’s the scoreboard.

”bihar is unsafe”

this one comes from the 90s. the “jungle raj” era. and yes, that was real. i won’t pretend it wasn’t. but it’s 2026 now, and bihar’s crime rate has dropped significantly over the past two decades. patna is safer than delhi by virtually every metric. on my visits, i’ve walked around patna late at night and felt no different than walking around pune or bangalore.

is it perfect? no. no indian city is. but the “unsafe” label hasn’t been updated in 30 years, and people keep repeating it because it’s easier than looking at current data.

”bihar is backward”

this is the laziest one. what does “backward” even mean? let me tell you what’s in bihar.

bodh gaya. the place where siddhartha gautama sat under a tree and became the buddha. the single most important site in buddhism, a religion followed by 500 million people worldwide. UNESCO world heritage site.

nalanda. the world’s first residential university. founded in the 5th century CE, it ran for almost a thousand years. students came from china, korea, tibet, and central asia to study here. buddhist philosophy, astronomy, medicine, logic. this was the harvard of the ancient world, except it predated harvard by about 1,100 years. also a UNESCO world heritage site.

vaishali. considered the world’s first republic. a functioning democracy 2,600 years ago, centuries before the greeks got credit for inventing the concept.

the maurya empire, one of the largest empires in world history, was headquartered in pataliputra. modern-day patna. ashoka, chandragupta, chanakya. this isn’t some footnote in a history textbook. this is the foundation of indian civilization.

”backward” is a word people use when they don’t know the history. bihar has more history than most countries.

”all biharis are the same”

130 million people. think about that. bihar has a larger population than most european countries. the state has bhojpuri speakers, maithili speakers, magahi speakers, angika speakers. mithila culture in the north is completely different from bhojpuri culture in the west. a darbhanga household and a buxar household might as well be in different states.

the food is different, the festivals have regional variations, the accents are different, the traditions are different. lumping all biharis together is like lumping all of southern europe together because “they all eat pasta."

"biharis only eat litti chokha”

litti chokha is incredible. i will defend it until i die. but bihari food is an entire universe beyond that one dish.

champaran mutton, slow-cooked for hours in a sealed earthen pot with no water added, just mustard oil and spices, the meat cooking in its own juices. it’s been made this way for 200-300 years. mithila cuisine has its own repertoire: fish curries, dahi chura, kadhi bari, kumhrauri. bhojpuri food borrows from awadhi cuisine and brings in pulav, biryani, kachori. sattu is the original superfood, high in protein, consumed for centuries before some wellness influencer in mumbai “discovered” it.

thekua, khaja from silao, tilkut from gaya, balushahi, anarsa, parwal ki mithai. bihari sweets alone could fill a book.

i’ve written an entire guide to bihari cuisine because one paragraph will never be enough.


what people don’t know

the stereotypes are frustrating, but what’s worse is the sheer ignorance. not malicious ignorance, just the absence of information. people don’t know what they don’t know.

the culture

chhath puja is the most environmentally conscious festival in india. no idols immersed in water. no crackers. no waste. just standing in a river at sunrise and sunset, offering prayers to the sun. it’s older than most festivals people celebrate, and it’s practiced with a devotion that’s hard to describe unless you’ve seen it. the four days of fasting, the discipline, the community of it. wherever biharis go, chhath follows. delhi’s yamuna ghats during chhath look like bihar. so do the beaches in mumbai. i’ve written a complete guide to chhath puja because the festival deserves to be understood, not just seen in passing news clips.

madhubani art (mithila painting) originated in the mithila region of bihar. women have been painting these intricate geometric patterns on walls and floors for centuries, passed down through generations. it’s now sold in international galleries, printed on tote bags and phone covers and sarees. it got a GI tag. the art is everywhere now, but somehow people don’t connect it back to bihar.

sonepur mela is asia’s largest cattle fair, held every year in november on the banks of the gandak river. it’s been running for centuries. hundreds of thousands of people attend.

the history nobody talks about

guru gobind singh, the tenth sikh guru, was born in patna. patna sahib, one of the five takhts of sikhism, is here. millions of sikh pilgrims visit every year. most non-biharis have no idea.

mahavir, the founder of jainism, was born in vaishali. buddhism was born in bodh gaya. two of the world’s major religions started in bihar. let that sit for a moment.

aryabhata, one of the greatest mathematicians in history, the person who essentially gave the world the concept of zero and calculated pi to four decimal places, worked in patna during the gupta period.

the first stone edict in india? ashoka’s, in bihar. the concept of a welfare state? ashoka pioneered it from pataliputra. diplomatic missions, public hospitals, veterinary clinics, tree-planting programs. in the 3rd century BCE. from bihar.

the warmth

this is the part that’s hardest to quantify but easiest to feel. biharis are genuinely, almost aggressively hospitable. you show up at someone’s house unannounced and you’re getting fed. there’s no discussion about it. the guest doesn’t get to say “i already ate.” doesn’t matter. you’re eating.

there’s a word, “apnapan,” that captures it. a sense of belonging, of treating strangers like family. it’s cultural. it’s deep. and it’s something you won’t find in a reddit thread or a quora answer. you have to experience it.


the real problems

if i only talked about the good stuff, this would be propaganda. and bihar has enough of that from politicians. so let me be honest about what’s actually wrong, because biharis know this better than anyone.

infrastructure

it’s not where it needs to be. roads have improved significantly over the last decade, but they’re still not at the level of maharashtra or karnataka. power supply is better but not consistent everywhere, especially in rural areas. healthcare infrastructure is thin. there aren’t enough hospitals, not enough doctors, not enough equipment. people still travel to delhi and vellore for serious medical treatment because the options at home aren’t sufficient.

flooding

bihar is india’s most flood-prone state. 76% of the population in north bihar lives under the persistent threat of flooding every single year. the kosi river alone has displaced millions over decades. the government spends around rs 1,000 crore annually on flood relief. embankments have been built, over 3,700 km of them, but the flood-affected area has actually increased over time. the system isn’t working. people lose homes, crops, and livelihoods on a cycle so predictable you can set your calendar to it. this is not a small problem. this is an existential challenge for millions of people.

brain drain

this is the one i feel personally. most of the smartest, most ambitious people i know from bihar are not in bihar anymore. they’re in delhi, mumbai, bangalore, pune, hyderabad, or abroad. i’m one of them.

bihar produces talent and then exports it because there aren’t enough opportunities at home to retain it. the coaching institutes prepare you for exams that take you elsewhere. the engineering colleges feed you into IT companies in other states. the medical students move to hospitals that have better equipment and better pay. the cycle has been running for decades.

it’s getting better. but slowly. and the honest truth is that many of us who left aren’t sure we’ll go back, even if we want to.

governance

i won’t get deeply political here, but decades of governance failure created the bihar that people stereotype today. the state was one of the richest in india at independence. the decline wasn’t natural. it was manufactured by bad policy, worse leadership, and a central government that was often indifferent. things have improved since the 2000s, significantly in some areas. but the gap is still massive, and filling it will take more than one generation.


what’s changing

bihar is not frozen in time, even if the stereotypes are.

patna metro

five stations became operational in october 2025. more are coming. an airport link is being planned. this isn’t aspirational anymore, it’s literally running. for a city that was “backward” in the national imagination, having a functional metro is quietly significant. i’ve written about how patna is changing in detail.

the new airport terminal

patna airport’s new terminal opened in 2025. international flights resumed after a 26-year gap. the city is connecting to the world again. it’s not indira gandhi international, but it’s a massive upgrade from what existed before.

cafe culture and startups

patna has a growing cafe scene now. actual specialty coffee shops. co-working spaces. young people starting businesses. it’s small compared to bangalore or pune, but the trajectory matters. five years ago, this barely existed. now it does. best cafes in patna is a real category now, and that tells you something.

young people talking about coming back

this is anecdotal, but i hear it more often now. people who left for college and jobs, talking about what it would take to move back. not out of obligation, but because they see opportunity. the real estate is cheap. the cost of living is low. remote work means you can earn a bangalore salary from patna. it’s not a flood yet. but it’s a trickle, and trickles become something.


being bihari outside bihar

if you’re bihari and you’ve lived in any other indian city, you know what this section is about. you’ve lived it.

the jokes. “bihari” used as a punchline. casually, in group conversations, by people who consider themselves progressive and open-minded. the same people who’d never joke about someone’s caste or religion think “bihari” is fair game.

the accent policing. speaking hindi with a bihari inflection and watching someone smirk. using a maithili or bhojpuri word and having someone ask, “what language is that?” like it’s an alien dialect and not a language spoken by tens of millions of people.

the rental market. if you’ve tried renting a flat in mumbai or delhi and disclosed that you’re from bihar, you might have encountered the hesitation. the “we’ll get back to you” that never comes back.

the bollywood problem. for decades, biharis in hindi cinema were either the comic relief or the villain. the bumbling, accented, unsophisticated sidekick. the loud, aggressive criminal. it shaped how an entire country sees us, and the industry never had to answer for it because nobody pushed back hard enough.

i’ve laughed at bihari jokes. i’ll be honest about that. sometimes they’re genuinely funny. sometimes you laugh because it’s easier than making things awkward. but there’s a line between laughing with someone and being the permanent punchline, and biharis have been on the wrong side of that line for too long.

the thing about anti-bihari sentiment is that it’s one of india’s most normalized prejudices. people who’d never say something about someone’s religion or ethnicity will comfortably mock biharis. because somehow, in the hierarchy of acceptable discrimination, mocking a state and its people is still fine.

it’s not fine. it was never fine. and more of us are saying that out loud now.

the quiet pride

but here’s the other side of it. the side that doesn’t make for outrage posts.

every bihari i know carries their identity with them, even when they don’t advertise it. it’s in the sattu they order online to their apartment in bangalore. it’s in the chhath puja they organize on whatever riverbank or lakefront they can find, hundreds of kilometers from home. it’s in the way they light up when they meet another bihari in a random city and immediately switch to bhojpuri or maithili. it’s in the phone calls home, the money sent back, the plans to “maybe come back someday.”

biharis build wherever they go. they send remittances back. they create communities. they adapt without erasing themselves. that’s not a weakness. that’s a survival skill polished over generations.


i don’t need to explain myself

i started this by saying i’m tired of this conversation. and i am. i’m tired of having to justify where i’m from. tired of the “but you’re different from other biharis” comment, as if it’s a compliment. tired of being the ambassador for 130 million people every time someone finds out my pin code starts with 8.

bihar is not a monolith. it’s not a punchline. it’s not a problem to be solved. it’s a place. a deeply complex, historically significant, culturally rich, economically challenged, rapidly changing place. like every other state in india, except with more history and worse PR.

i’m from bihar. patna is my hometown. i eat litti chokha and chura dahi every time i visit. i’ve celebrated chhath at the ghat, standing in cold water before sunrise. i carry bihar with me wherever i go because i want to.

i don’t need anyone’s approval for that. i don’t need to explain why i’m proud of a place that gave the world buddhism, democracy, nalanda, aryabhata, and the best mutton dish in the country.

bihar made me. the rest is just geography.


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